This has nothing to do with WoW
October 14, 2009 § 3 Comments
Alright, so I wanted to share a little bit of real life frustration this morning.
I live in New York City. Part of living here means I have to take the subway. When I first moved here lo those many years ago, the subway was a magical place. A new and exciting experience full of action and adventure. I grew up in a small(ish) city and had never seen a transit system before in my life. And when I moved I was very excited about this train that would take me anywhere I wanted to go. I also lived very close to the school I was attending so I didn’t actually have to take the subway, which meant I only took it when I wanted to. Eventually though I moved to an area of the city that required me to take the subway every day. And the magic of the transit system quickly faded.
Anyway, what’s my point here…oh yeah. There are two things I hate. People (re: crowds) and the subway. It’s phenomenal how rude people are. There are 4 things that people do on the train that absolutely make me want to hit them in the face:
First: People on the platform who will stand right in front of the train door and don’t get out of the way for people who try to get off. Typically these people will also get offended if you are trying to get off the train and try to get off before they get on.
Second: People who get on the train and then don’t move past the doorway. Move to the center of the car you idiots! Then the rest of us will fit on the train!
Third: People who will stand up on a very crowded car before the train has had a chance to pull into the station and try and shove their way to the door. Where exactly do you expect me to go? The freaking car is full. When we get to the station, then you can try and shove your way off the car. Although, if you shove me again, I may turn around and punch you in the face. I don’t care if you are 10. And wearing glasses. And a girl. Don’t. Shove. Me. Again.
Fourth: (I know this one will be most controversial) People who expect that because they are older, or a woman, or have a child with them, simply expect me to get up and give up my seat. Now don’t get me wrong, if I see someone who is clearly disabled, or looks like they are in pain, or tremendously tired, or pregnant, and sometimes even if they are carrying something, I will get up (if there is room to do so) and offer them my seat. I have nothing against offering up my seat to someone else who might need it more. What bothers me is people who expect me to get up simply because they are a woman or older (note, not old as in 60+ because I try to get up for them because they look like they can’t stand–I mean older like 40 or 50+ who are perfectly capable of standing on their own two feet).
First of all, I have my own physical disability. Granted, you can’t see it, so it’s not readily apparent, but there are days where standing up feels like thousands of tiny pygmies stabbing me with red-hot daggers. Needless to say, some days I just need to sit. Secondly, the mere fact that you are older than I am and/or happen to not have a Y chromosome does not earn you some fundamental right to sit down.
Now I know what you may be thinking. “Fizz, if you yourself have a disability that people can’t actually see, shouldn’t that make you more sensitive to other people who may need to sit down because they have disabilities that you can’t see?” Well, yes actually. In fact, it makes me that much more aware of what’s going on. Which makes me more aware of when people cop the attitude that they deserve a chair simply because that’s what might be socially expected. Oh, you’re tired? Suck it up. So am I.
Maybe, just MAYBE if you said things like, ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ instead of, ‘what’s wrong with you’ and ‘I can’t believe you are so rude’ I would be more inclined to put aside my own pain and let you sit down.
It is entirely possible that I am way off base here and am just a cranky old gnome, and that maybe I should relax a little.
Or maybe the people on the subway should stop being such assholes.